http://www.pm.gov.au/press-office/national-apology-forced-adoptions
Here is the link to the apology.
Saturday, 25 May 2013
Government Apology
National Apology for Forced Adoptions
THU 21 MARCH 2013
Prime Minister
Canberra
[ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS OMITTED]
In just over an
hour’s time, the following words of apology will be moved in the Senate and the
House of Representatives: Today, this Parliament, on behalf of the Australian people, takes
responsibility and apologises for the policies and practices that forced the
separation of mothers from their babies, which created a lifelong legacy of
pain and suffering. 2. We acknowledge the profound effects of these policies and practices
on fathers. 3. And we recognise the hurt these actions caused to brothers and
sisters, grandparents, partners and extended family members. 4. We deplore the shameful practices that denied you, the mothers, your
fundamental rights and responsibilities to love and care for your children. You
were not legally or socially acknowledged as their mothers. And you were
yourselves deprived of care and support. 5. To you, the mothers who were betrayed by a system that gave you no
choice and subjected you to manipulation, mistreatment and malpractice, we
apologise. 6. We say sorry to you, the mothers who were denied knowledge of your
rights, which meant you could not provide informed consent. You were given
false assurances. You were forced to endure the coercion and brutality of
practices that were unethical, dishonest and in many cases illegal. 7. We know you have suffered enduring effects from these practices
forced upon you by others. For the loss, the grief, the disempowerment, the
stigmatisation and the guilt, we say sorry. 8. To each of you who were adopted or removed, who were led to believe
your mother had rejected you and who were denied the opportunity to grow up
with your family and community of origin and to connect with your culture, we
say sorry. 9. We apologise to the sons and daughters who grew up not knowing how
much you were wanted and loved. 10. We acknowledge that many of you still experience a constant struggle
with identity, uncertainty and loss, and feel a persistent tension between
loyalty to one family and yearning for another. 11. To you, the fathers, who were excluded from the lives of your
children and deprived of the dignity of recognition on your children’s birth
records, we say sorry. We acknowledge your loss and grief. 12. We recognise that the consequences of forced adoption practices
continue to resonate through many, many lives. To you, the siblings,
grandparents, partners and other family members who have shared in the pain and
suffering of your loved ones or who were unable to share their lives, we say
sorry.13. Many are still grieving. Some families will be lost to one another
forever. To those of you who face the difficulties of reconnecting with family
and establishing on-going relationships, we say sorry. 14. We offer this apology in the hope that it will assist your healing
and in order to shine a light on a dark period of our nation’s history. 15. To those who have fought for the truth to be heard, we hear you now.
We acknowledge that many of you have suffered in silence for far too long. 16. We are saddened that many others are no longer here to share this
moment. In particular, we remember those affected by these practices who
took their own lives. Our profound sympathies go to their families. 17. To redress the shameful mistakes of the past, we are committed to
ensuring that all those affected get the help they need, including access to
specialist counselling services and support, the ability to find the truth in
freely available records and assistance in reconnecting with lost family. 18. We resolve, as a nation, to do all in our power to make sure these
practices are never repeated. In facing future challenges, we will remember the
lessons of family separation. Our focus will be on protecting the fundamental
rights of children and on the importance of the child’s right to know and be
cared for by his or her parents. 19. With profound sadness and remorse, we offer you all our unreserved
apology. This Apology is
extended in good faith and deep humility. It will be a
profound act of moral insight by a nation searching its conscience. It will stand in
the name of all Australians as a sign of our willingness to right an old wrong
and face a hard truth. As Australians, we
are used to celebrating past glories and triumphs, and so we should. We are a great
nation. But we must also be
a good nation.
Therefore we must
face the negative features of our past without hesitation or reserve. That is why the
period since 2008 has been so distinctive – because it has been a moment of
healing and accountability in the life of our nation. For a country, just
as for a person, it takes a lot of courage to say we are sorry. We don’t like to
admit we were mistaken or misguided. Yet this is part of
the process of a nation growing up: Holding the mirror
to ourselves and our past, and not flinching from what we see. What we see in that
mirror is deeply shameful and distressing. A story of
suffering and unbearable loss. But ultimately a
story of strength, as those affected by forced adoptions found their voice. Organised and
shared their experiences. And, by speaking
truth to power, brought about the Apology we offer today. This story had its
beginnings in a wrongful belief that women could be separated from their babies
and it would all be for the best. Instead these
churches and charities, families, medical staff and bureaucrats struck at the
most primal and sacred bond there is: ·
the bond between a mother and her baby.
Those affected by
forced adoption came from all walks of life. From the city or
the country. People who were
born here or migrated here and people who are Indigenous Australians. From different
faiths and social classes. For the most part,
the women who lost their babies were young and vulnerable. They were often
pressurised and sometimes even drugged. They faced so many voices
telling them to surrender, even though their own lonely voice shouted from the
depths of their being to hold on to the new life they had created. Too often they did
not see their baby’s face. They couldn’t sooth
his first cries. Never felt her
warmth or smelt her skin. They could not give
their own baby a name. Those babies grew
up with other names and in other homes. Creating a sense of
abandonment and loss that sometimes could never be made whole. Today we will hear
the motion moved in the Parliament and many other words spoken by those of us
who lead. But today we also
listen to the words and stories of those who have waited so long to be heard. Like the members of
the Reference Group personally affected by forced adoption who I met earlier
today. Lizzy Brew,
Katherine Rendell and Christine Cole told me how their children were wrenched
away so soon after birth. How they were
denied basic support and advice. How the removal of
their children led to a lifetime of anguish and pain. Their experiences
echo the stories told in the Senate report. Stories that speak
to us with startling power and moral force. Like Linda Bryant
who testified of the devastating moment her baby was taken away: When I had my child she was removed. All I saw was the top of her head –
I knew she had black hair. So often that brief
glimpse was the final time those mothers would ever see their child. In institutions
around Australia, women were made to perform menial labour in kitchens and laundries
until their baby arrived. As Margaret Bishop
said: It felt like a kind of penance. In recent years, I have occasionally passed what then was the Medindi
Maternity Hospital and it generates a deep sadness in me and an odd feeling
that it was a Dickensian tale about somebody else. Margaret McGrath
described being confined within the Holy Cross home where life was ‘harsh, punitive and impersonal’. Yet this was sunny
postwar Australia when we were going to the beach and driving our new Holdens
and listening to Johnny O’Keefe. As the time for
birth came, their babies would be snatched away before they had even held them
in their arms. Sometimes consent
was achieved by forgery or fraud. Sometimes women
signed adoption papers while under the influence of medication. Most common of all
was the bullying arrogance of a society that presumed to know what was best. Margaret Nonas was
told she was selfish. Linda Ngata was
told she was too young and would be a bad mother. Some mothers
returned home to be ostracised and judged. And despite all the
coercion, many mothers were haunted by guilt for having ‘given away’ their
child. Guilt because, in
the words of Louise Greenup, they did not ‘buck the
system or fight’. The hurt did not
simply last for a few days or weeks. This was a wound
that would not heal. Kim Lawrence told
the Senate Committee: The pain never goes away, that we all gave away our babies. We
were told to forget what had happened, but we cannot. It will be with us all
our lives. Carolyn Brown never
forgot her son: I was always looking and wondering if he was alive or dead. … From then on every time I saw a baby, a little boy and even a grown up
in the street, I would look to see if I could recognise him. For decades, young
mothers grew old haunted by loss. Silently grieving
in our suburbs and towns. And somewhere,
perhaps even close by, their children grew up denied the bond that was their
birth-right. Instead they lived
with self-doubt and an uncertain identity. The feeling, as one
child of forced adoption put it, ‘that part of me is
missing’. Some suffered
sexual abuse at the hands of their adoptive parents or in state institutions. Many more endured
the cruelty that only children can inflict on their peers: Your mum’s not your real mum, your real mum didn’twant you. Your parents aren’t your real parents, they don’t love you. Taunts vividly
remembered decades later. For so many
children of forced adoption, the scars remain in adult life. Phil Evans
described his life as a: rollercoaster ride of emotional trauma; indescribable fear; uncertainty;
anxiety and self-sabotage in so many ways.
Many others
identified the paralysing effect of self-doubt and a fear of abandonment: It has held me back, stopped me growing and ensured that I have
lived a life frozen. I heard similar
stories of disconnection and loss from Leigh Hubbard and Paul Howes today. The challenges of
reconnecting with family. The struggles with
self-identity and self-esteem. The difficulties
with accessing records. Challenges that
even the highest levels of professional success have not been able to assuage
or heal. Neither should we
forget the fathers, brothers and sisters, grandparents and other relatives who
were also affected as the impact of forced adoption cascaded through each
family. Gary Coles, a
father, told me today of the lack of acknowledgment that many fathers have
experienced. How often fathers
were ignored at the time of the birth. How their names
were not included on birth certificates. How the veil of
shame and forgetting was cast over their lives too. My fellow
Australians, No collection of
words alone can undo all this damage. Or make whole the
lives and families fractured by forced adoption. Or give back
childhoods that were robbed of joy and laughter. Or make amends for
the Birthdays and Christmases and Mother’s or Father’s Days that only brought a
fresh wave of grief and loss. But by saying sorry
we can correct the historical record. We can declare that
these mothers did nothing wrong. That you loved your
children and you always will. And to the children
of forced adoption, we can say that you deserved so much better. You deserved the
chance to know, and love, your mother and father. We can promise you
all that no generation of Australians will suffer the same pain and trauma that
you did. The cruel, immoral
practice of forced adoption will have no place in this land any more. We also pledge
resources to match today’s words with actions. We will provide $5
million to improve access to specialist support and records tracing for those
affected by forced adoptions. And we will work
with the states and territories to improve these services. The Government will
also deliver $5 million so that mental health professionals can better assist
in caring for those affected by forced adoption. We will also
provide $1.5 million for the National Archives to record the experiences of
those affected by forced adoption through a special exhibition. That way, this
chapter in our nation’s history will never again be marginalised or forgotten
again. Today’s historic
moment has only been made possible by the bravery of those who came forward to
make submissions to the Senate Committee and also of those who couldn’t come
forward but who nurtured hope silently in their hearts. Because of your
courage, Australia now knows the truth. The report prepared
so brilliantly by Senator Siewert and the Senate Committee records that truth
for all to see. This was further
reinforced by the national consultations that Professor Nahum Mushin and his
reference group undertook to draft the national apology.
Their guidance and
advice to government on the drafting of the apology have been invaluable.
Any Australian who
reads the Senate report or listens to your stories as I have today will be
appalled by what was done to you.
They will be saddened
by your loss.
But most of all,
they will marvel at your determination to fight for the respect of history.
They will draw
strength from your example.
And they will be
inspired by the generous spirit in which you receive this Apology.
Because saying
‘Sorry’ is only ever complete when those who are wronged accept it.
Through your
courage and grace, the time of neglect is over, and the work of healing can
begin.
Wednesday, 15 May 2013
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